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Book Review // God Speaks Your Love Language


God Speaks Your Love Language:
How to Experience & Express God's Love 
Gary Chapman

Northfield Publishing | September 4th, 2018 (first published 2009)
Christian Living, Non-fiction

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Feel God’s love more personally.

Do you realize that the God of the universe speaks your love language, and your expressions of love for Him are shaped by your love language? Learn how you can give and receive God’s love through the five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

Gary Chapman writes, “As we respond to the love of God and begin to identify the variety of languages He uses to speak to us, we soon learn to speak those languages ourselves. Whatever love language you prefer, may you find ever deeper satisfaction in using that language in your relationship with God and with other people.”

The book includes a brand new chapter on “Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone” which will teach you the joys of speaking a love language you’re not used to with God. 

No matter what love language you prefer, you will become more deeply connected with God and watch this bond transform all of your relationships.

Contains personal reflection questions and a study guide for groups.

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So, so good!  Before reading this book, it had never occurred to me that God spoke our individual love languages.  And He does!  How cool is that?  Knowing we can meet Him as we are & that He'll be there is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

If you haven't read the book that began it all, The 5 Love Languages, then you may not fully understand this one right away.  But no worries!  It's not required to read the original beforehand (although I would HIGHLY encourage you to find every one of these books!).  This one gives a great intro & a couple chapters on understanding your own Love Language.

As to the "series" of these books, there's one for EVERYONE: i.e. Singles, Married Couples, Teens, Parenting, etc.  And every one that I've read thus far is simply amazing.  And makes so much sense.

A quick summary:
Every individual has their own love language that speaks directly to them.  In essence, when that particular love language(s) is directed at them, that is how they feel loved & cherished.

The Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch

I won't go into detail for each one, but if you're curious & would like to know yours, take the quiz!

For the purpose of this review, I will now proceed to the featured book.  :]

We begin at the Intro where our attention turns to the Divine Lover---God Himself, because that's where Love begins.  We're created in His image!  So, of course, God knows our Love Languages & speaks them fluently.  The chapters following focus on each love language individually & give wonderful examples and stories---including biblical examples!---of how God spoke to numerous people in their own Love Language.


Words of Affirmation
"The God of the Bible is characterized as the God who speaks.  His words are designed to build a relationship with people.  The Scriptures consistently declare God's words of encouragement..." (p. 40)

Every word of God affirms the worth of each human being.  Along with that, Jesus's words of affirmation brought life & hope to all who were willing to listen.  A famous person of our world history to whom God spoke in Words of Affirmation would be Martin Luther, the great Reformer.  He sought God, spoke to God, & served God with every fiber of his being.  Some more biblical examples would be God speaking to His people through the prophets Isaiah & Jeremiah (to name a couple).

Quality Time
In a spiritual aspect, this would mean spending time alone with God in studying the Scriptures.  Your quiet time with Him is SO IMPORTANT (regardless whether or not this is your Love Language, we should be in the Word daily!  Otherwise, how will be stand strong amidst this dark world?).

In the Old Testament, the scriptures describe how God spent quality time with Adam & Eve as they talked & walked together in the Garden.  Abraham was called the "friend of God," and often spoke personally with Him.  And through the prophet Isaiah, God spoke of His love for Israel & promised that His presence would be with them always. (Isaiah 43:1-2)

A great historical figure who could be known as having this particular Love Language & who dedicated his life to God on his knees in prayer, would be George Mueller, known specifically for his ministry to orphans.

"When someone's primary love language is quality time, uninterrupted times of communion with God are not difficult but joyous, not burden causing but burden lifting.  As Mueller said, 'The first great & primary business to which I ought to attend every day is to have my soul happy in the Lord.  The first thing to be concerned about is not how much I might serve the Lord, how I might glorify the Lord; but how I might get my soul into a happy state, and how my inner man might be nourished.' " (p. 58)

Gifts
Giving of your time, your service, & yourself follows in imitating the example of Christ & the Trinity, the ultimate Giver.  From the beginning to end all throughout the Scriptures, God reveals Himself as a giver of gifts.  John 3:16 is a perfect example of that.  "Throughout human history, God has revealed Himself as one who loves those who will acknowledge Him.  He, in turn, expresses His love by giving gifts.  Sometimes those gifts are material things that can be touched & tasted, such as food, clothing, & shelter.  Other times His gifts are in the realm of the spiritual---eternal life, forgiveness of sins, peace of mind, & purpose of life."  (p.70)

A historical example  of a man whose Language was Gifts was 20th-century industrialist R.G. LeTourneau, an engineer & businessman whose earth-moving machines were called "the secret weapons" of World War II.  Having made the decision to make God his partner in his hugely successful business, he became known for his generosity, giving away 90 percent of all he made.  And all because he was once challenged by his pastor who said, "God needs businessmen as well as preachers & missionaries."  When asked in 1942, after his company's net earnings topped the two-million-dollar mark for the first time, if he was happier now than before his success, he responded, "More grateful, perhaps, because God has let us help Him do some of the things we wanted to do then.  But happier?  We had been in the service of the Lord then, and we are in the service of the Lord now, and there is nothing in that kind of happiness that two million net earnings can add to, or buy."

Acts of Service
The greatest example of this particular Love Language would be the Life sacrificed on Calvary all those centuries ago.  God expressed his love for all people by sending His only Son, who in turn expressed His love by the ultimate act of service: His death for our sins.  

Who doesn't know the story of God's deliverance of Israel from the bondage of Egypt?  That act of love is so important that the Jewish community have celebrated it at Passover for more than 3,500 years.  

Jesus is known as the Servant King, whose acts of service included preparing "a place" for His followers; washing their feet in place of a lowly servant; performing miracles as the Great Physician; and so much more.

Ever heard of a young woman named Agnes Bohaxhiu?  You might know her better as Mother Teresa.  :]  From her early teen years, she dedicated her life to Christ & served countless people through her selflessness.  In her words she says, "I invite all those who appreciate out work to look around them & be willing to love those who have no love & to offer them their services.  Are we not, by definition, messengers of love?"  Later, she stated, "Let us not be satisfied just by giving money.  Money is not everything.  The poor need the work of our hands, the love of our hearts.  Love, an abundant love, is the expression of our Christian religion."

Physical Touch
God is a physical God.  You can see the evidence of it in all creation!  All throughout the Bible, we find records of this Love Language in action.  Jacob wrestled with God (Genesis 32:25, 30); Moses encountered Him in a way that affected him physically---his face was radiantly bright after visiting with the Lord (Exodus 34:29, 33); and the life of Jesus shows that He frequently used physical touch as a love language (all throughout the New Testament!).  Paul, formerly Saul of Tarsus, was another example of God's physical touch in bringing about his dramatic conversion.  

Conclusion
I could probably give many more examples of God's fluency in every Love Language, but for the sake of time (& space), I shall conclude here.  ;D

All told, this was a fantastic piece of non-fiction, and sheds a beautiful new light on who God is & how He loves.  <3


  
I was provided a complimentary copy thanks to Moody Publishers Newsroom in exchange for my honest review.

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  1. This sounds like an absolutely delightful book to read! I LOVE studying the 5 Love Languages, and really looking at them through God's perspective and how to use them for HIM sounds like such an amazing experience! I will have to remember this one. Thank you for sharing! :D

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    1. Yes! And so do I---they all make perfect sense when you think about it. ;D

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