Be ENCOURAGED || Christmas

Candy canes.
Fun traditions.
Holiday movies!
A Promise fulfilled.
Chocolate-covered cherries.
The birthday of my Lord & King.
Hot chocolate & a warm fireplace.

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Christmas is not about Santa Claus, reindeer, presents, & traditions.
While we do not know the exact birth date of our King's Son, we were given a physical day in the holiday of Christmas to remember and celebrate---much like Easter & the day of His Resurrection.  Sadly, many people forget the true reason for the season and all too often get caught up in the stress of giving & getting gifts and preparing for family get-togethers, instead of focusing on the why of this marvelous celebration.

I love traditions.  One that my parents began when my siblings & I were wee haflings was on Christmas Eve.  My dad, with his awesome, deep narrator voice, would read to us a children's book entitled "What Child is This?"  It is so simple, and yet so sweet a message that it has stuck with me all these years.  And now, I have a copy for myself---one Evan & I can read to our son Gabriel.  Now that we are a family of more than two, we enjoy thinking of new traditions to begin with our children---and not just for Christmas!

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But how easy is it to get caught up in those fun things and forget the what & why it is we are making said traditions for?

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For this Christmas, and for the coming year, I want to be intentional and aware.
--  Intentional in keeping God at the forefront of everything we do.  --
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He has come for us!
Oh, what joy we have---for He loves the unworthy.

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What fun/serious traditions do you & your family have?  How did they begin?  If you could start something new, what would it be?

Merry Christmas, you lovely beans!  Due to the holiday, activity here will be slow (if any) until January 7th. So, all that said, I wish you a happy Christmas with your loved ones & a lovely New Year!! 
<3 <3 <3

Book Review // Chosen People

Chosen People
Robert Whitlow

Thomas Nelson | November 6, 2018
Christian Fiction, Legal Fiction

Bestselling author Robert Whitlow returns with an international legal drama that speaks to critical issues of our day.

“You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation...”

During a terrorist attack near the Western Wall in Jerusalem, a courageous mother sacrifices her life to save her four-year-old daughter, leaving behind a grieving husband and a motherless child.

Hana Abboud, a Christian Arab Israeli lawyer trained at Hebrew University, typically uses her language skills to represent international clients for an Atlanta law firm. When her boss is contacted by Jakob Brodsky, a young Jewish lawyer pursuing a lawsuit on behalf of the woman’s family under the US Anti-Terrorism laws, he calls on Hana’s expertise to take point on the case. After careful prayer, she joins forces with Jakob, and they quickly realize the need to bring in a third member for their team, an Arab investigator named Daud Hasan, based in Israel.

To unravel the case, this team of investigators travels from the streets of Atlanta to the alleys of Jerusalem, a world where hidden motives thrive, the risk of death is real, and the search for truth has many faces. What they uncover will forever change their understanding of justice, heritage, and what it means to be chosen for a greater purpose.

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WARNING: Possible Spoilers
I was provided a copy of this novel in exchange for my honest review.  The following opinions are mine alone.  If I do not enjoy a particular book, that doesn't necessarily mean you won't either.  :]

[The Basics]
*huge sigh*  O__O  Unfortunately, that's what I feel when I think of this book.  I am SO RELIEVED to have finished it.  In my humble opinion, it read much like a silly soap opera drama.  And I canNOT stand those. . . *sigh*  

Anyways, as mentioned above in the book blurb, you'll get the gist of what this story is about.  To me, it literally dragged on and on and on.  And the plot seemed to go nowhere fast, with barely any resolution (to my thinking) in the end.  I had a difficult time not skimming it just to be done, if that tells you anything more.  But enough of that, if you feel this novel is one you may enjoy, by all means, please do!  And comment to let me know!  I love hearing your different opinions---it's a beautiful thing at times to disagree.  :]


[Spiritual Content]
This is so very obviously Christian fiction.  Hana, a Christian Israeli Arab, prays quite often---throughout her day in the little things (something I admire) as well as most every night around 3:30am.  At one point during her quiet time, she experiences the "invisible weight of God's glory" when "she [closed her eyes], the atmosphere around her thickened, but not due to heat or humidity. . ."  At this moment, she feels completely surrounded by God's presence, almost sounding to me like she was in a trance-like state for a few minutes.  When Jakob interrupts her, she encourages him in faith saying that when the time comes for him to experience God's presence, not to miss it.  And that Jerusalem is the best place to find God.  (Jakob, as a secular Jew, doesn't think much of faith.  But he eventually does have that moment Hana said he'd have.)

Hana takes Jakob to one of her favorite places in the Holy City, the Garden Tomb.  A guide gives a lecture on the death of Jesus, something Jakob had never really heard of before.  He also didn't know Jesus was a Jew.  Prayer beads are found at a crime scene.  Other characters pray and encourage one another to.  We see the diversity of religion in different places in the city, as well as Atlanta, Georgia.

A man is ambushed at his friend's apartment.  He's beaten brutally over the head and suffers a pretty severe concussion, causing much dizziness and some blackout spells.  

A security footage shows a woman and child attacked in a public square.  The woman is killed by a knife, and the girl---age 3---is seriously injured (on the face).  In searching for evidence of who and what group is behind the murder, Hana and Jakob come across a training video where young men chase hostages into abandoned houses and execute them.  Some characters are taken hostage, a couple try to defend themselves with no success.  They are gagged and bound with plastic zip ties, which cut into their wrists.  Someone spits in a woman's face and calls her a loose woman.  A man suggests they take her as a prize for "a commander's harem."  A guy holds a knife to her neck.

A man strikes Hana across the face.  A man is grazed by a bullet, injuring his thigh.  At least one terrorist is killed in the chaos of a rescue---he bleeds out, twitching.  Special forces use concussion grenades.

[Language // Alcohol & Drugs]
One use of "oh my god."

Characters drink red wine.  Jakob enjoys some beer, but not excessively.  Hana and an investigator she has hired to help her law firm visit a hookah shop (flavored tobacco) to meet with an informant.

[Romantic Content]
Hana and the investigator obviously get along well with each other.  It's no surprise to her co-workers that she likes the man and that their relationship could possibly lead to marriage in the future.  They embrace and kiss a few times.

All told, I simply couldn't get into the story.  Everything just kinda felt loose and disjointed to me.  There were many times the point-of-views (POVs) of characters changed suddenly with no break in the chapter to indicate we were switching.  (That's become a huge pet peeve of mine lately. . .)  The writing seemed very flat to me---FAR too much tell and no show whatsoever.

Other than that, and the fact there's much dialogue placed on Israel, it's cities, and culture (which is interesting, of course, but almost over-the-top), this story has much potential.

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Thanks for reading, y'all! Again, this is totally my opinion on this particular novel.  If you get the chance to read it, I'd love to hear what you think!  
This is the last book review of the year for me!  Keep on visiting as I'm working on others for future posts.  :]

Merry Christmas!!!

Ilyon & Aktar Blog Tour! || Review & Giveaway

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Jaye L. Knight’s newest novel, Bitter Winter, and companion novella Lacy have been released! Bitter Winter is the fifth book in the Christian fantasy series, Ilyon Chronicles. Tricia Mingerink's newest novel Decree is also releasing! Decree is the fifth book in the Christian fantasy/kingdom adventure series The Blades of Acktar. Read about these books below and be sure to check out the other blog stops on the tour by visiting the official tour page. Don’t forget to enter the giveaway!

The Ilyon Chronicles

Bitter Winter
About Bitter Winter

Already struggling with a harsh winter and the threat of food shortage, a catastrophic event leaves those in the Landale camps reeling. Just when things couldn’t get much worse, camp members fall ill with the same devastating sickness that’s sweeping across the country. Determined to gain the cure, Jace sets off to Valcré. However, there are only two sources—the queen, or a powerful gang of smugglers who have made the dangerous city their home. When Jace gains audience with the gang leader, he finds the price of the cure is steeper than any of them imagined, forcing him to make an impossible choice—betray his conscience or let those he loves die.

Available now on Amazon!


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{The Basics}
Number 5 in the Ilyon Chronicles!!!  As the fifth sequel in this fantastic series by Jaye L. Knight, it's mandatory you read the other novels before feasting your eyes on this one.  Bitter Winter continues the journey of the Resistance against an evil empire now ruled by the crown princess Davira.  Under her harsh reign, the economy of the countries have fallen, crime runs rampant in the streets, and people are beginning to starve under the added weight of a severe winter season.  Game is scarce in the Resistance camps, and food is carefully rationed.  Though times are extremely difficult, and soon become even more so with the threat of a fatal illness, the people rally together under the hope of their King Elôm. 

It was so great to be reunited with the characters I've missed! Jace, Kyrin, Kaden, Marcus, Liam, Holden, Daniel, Elanor, etc.  *allthehearteyes*  In this story, we follow the POV of many different characters, but chiefly that of Jace.  It was so sweet to recall how the relationship between him and Kyrin has grown from book 1 to now.  And it was encouraging to see how their faith in Elôm has grown, and though they might waiver amidst the overwhelming attacks of an enemy they cannot physically fight, they learn to stand strong---no matter the outcome.

{Spiritual Content}
As a Christian series, we revisit the faith of the Resistance in that Elôm is the Creator & King of all things, and His son, Elon, came as a sacrifice for the people of Ilyon.  Characters pray to Him for strength, wisdom, and protection.

Those opposed to the love of Elôm worship the gods of the evil empire.  People are killed for believing in Elôm, and those who resist the worship of the gods meet in secret to instead worship and learn more of Elôm.  Believers are outlawed in the capitol city and many are murdered in the streets day by day.

Under the reign of Davira, life in the Resistance camps and especially for those still living in the cities is dangerous.  As mentioned above, people are killed daily---their killers claiming they were Elôm worshipers (whether they were or not).  

A camp is ambushed, and a deadly battle ensues.  Sword fights, bow and arrow wounds, etc.  Blood, bruises, gashes, and more fatal wounds.  Thirty men are lost in the fight, including two women and one boy of fifteen years.  Many more are taken due to the illness in the combined camps and cities.  A nasty red rash appears on the victim's neck and they endure a nasty high fever.

{Language // Alcohol & Drugs}
None!  These books are clean of any foul language.

Characters take meetings in a tavern a time or two.  Ale is present.  Herbs and herbal teas are administered to the sick to help treat the sickness.  Jace and Holden travel to the capitol city in search of the cure---[SPOILER!] contained in vials and given in a tea to the sick.

{Romantic Content}
Jace and Kyrin's relationship has come so far from their first meeting way back in book 1.  It is so very apparent they love each other dearly and they both show it in their actions to one another.  Jace works toward their future together in beginning to prepare a home for them.  They hug a few times, kiss at least once.

One young man approaches the brother of a girl he admires to request permission to court her.  Both he and Jace often wish they could kiss the objects of their affection, but refrain for propriety's sake, waiting for the "most opportune moment." ;D

This sequel is not as large in length as its predecessors, but that doesn't make it any less good.  I loved returning to my favorite characters and their familiar personalities, struggles, and strengths.  Ms Knight has a wonderful writing voice, the emotions in this novel was so very touching, I could've cried if I'd allowed myself.  A beautiful story!  And certainly open to another following!

I was provided a copy of this book thanks to the authors, in exchange for my honest review.  :]

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  About Lacy

The last thing Aaron ever envisioned was falling for a prostitute. Everything about it spells trouble. However, he can’t help noticing the way her smile lights up when she sees him and how much brokenness she hides behind it. Neither can he ignore how desperately she needs rescue and protection. When Lacy shares a life or death secret with him, Aaron is willing to risk everything to help her and to show her Elôm’s love. Yet, such a choice could destroy his reputation and maybe even cost him his freedom. An Ilyon Chronicles Novella

Available now on Amazon!


Haven’t discovered the world of Ilyon yet? Find out more at the official Ilyon Chronicles website!

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Jaye L. Knight is an award-winning author, homeschool graduate, and shameless tea addict with a passion for Christian fantasy. Armed with an active imagination and love for adventure, Jaye weaves stories of truth, faith, and courage with the message that even in the deepest darkness, God’s love shines as a light to offer hope. She has been penning stories since the age of eight and resides in the Northwoods of Wisconsin. You can connect with Jaye on her website, blog, Facebook, Twitter, and Etsy.

The Blades of Acktar

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About Decree 

The Adventure Continues. Discover more of The Blades of Acktar in this collection of novellas and short stories. The Blades as They Should’ve Been A test and the Gathering of Nobles will decide Leith and Martyn’s futures. Can they fight to become more than the Blades they were? Will Keevan accept the man who attempted to kill him as family? The First Mission When Martyn visits Surgis, his past seems determined to haunt him. Can he figure out how to forgive, especially when confronted with an enemy in need of his help? To the Far Great Mountains A death sends Leith and Martyn far beyond the borders of Acktar. Will they be able to arrest their quarry before they are caught themselves? From the story of how Leith and Martyn met to Ranson’s search for a life outside of the Blades, these stories will answer plaguing questions and expand the world of Acktar.

Available now on Amazon!


Haven’t discovered the The Blades of Acktar yet? Find out more at on the official Blades of Acktar page.

About the Author 
Tricia Mingerink is a twenty-something, book-loving, horse-riding country girl. She lives in Michigan with her family and their pack of pets. When she isn't writing, she can be found pursuing backwoods adventures across the country. You can connect with Tricia on her blog, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.


Share in the excitement of the release and enter to win a full signed set of the Ilyon Chronicles and The Blades of Acktar! (Giveaway is open to US residents only. Cannot be shipped internationally.) Click on this link to enter. Be sure to stop by each of the character chats (links in the blog tour schedule) for additional giveaways throughout the tour!

What's in a Name? || Christmas Edition!

Merry Christmas, all!
It's literally ONE. WEEK. AWAY!!!! Whaaaaattttt??? 
Do you and your family have any special plans this year?  This will be Gabe's first Christmas!  And with most of my family close by, we'll be celebrating at home.  :]

I know I missed all of my posts last week, and with Christmas around the corner, my activity here will be few and far between.  With the exception of this post, I'll have at least one---maybe two!---more.  Stay tuned tomorrow!  I'm taking part in a blog tour.  :D :D :D

For now, enjoy this jolly set of names!

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M | English

From the English surname, meaning "fair town."

F | English

From the English word for the holly tree, ultimately derived from the Old English word holen.

German, Danish, Norwegian, Finnish

German short form of Nicholas, which comes from the Greek Nikolaos meaning "victory of the people."

F | English

English form of Noëlle, the feminine form of Noël, which means "Christmas" in French.

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What do ya think?  Are there any more names you might add to this little list?  We could add the nickname of Jolly, and maybe Ivy to the mix.  What think ye??

On another note, my blog turned six years old on December 3rd!!! And I TOTALLY missed it.  *cue facepalm*  I had been blogging a few years before starting this one---first on my mother's blog, then on one I shared with my sisters---but SIX years??  Wow!  I remember turning to my mother then and saying, "I've been thinking of starting a blog of my own, and I've got an idea for a name: Sarah, Plain & Average!  What do you think?"  And it all began from there.  :]  Here's to lucky number seven!

Be ENCOURAGED || Slaves to Excess

In the chapter I'm focusing on for the book study this week, it touches on the dangers of overindulgence and habits of pleasure---be it alcohol, drugs, social media, or some other idol.  The passage in Titus 2 calls on the older women to be "not. . . slaves to much wine." (Titus 2:3)  It specifically says this to the older women, but we of any age should take this to heart.  And not JUST regarding alcohol.

". . . Paul is speaking about something deeper than overindulgent lifestyles.  He's concerned about our tendency to become enslaved to certain substances or habits or activities---anything---that we deem essential to our happiness, sanity, or survival."
- p. 133, Adorned by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth -

This could include things such as food, diet & exercise, shopping, TV shows & movies, work, screen time, romance novels, prescription meds, etc. etc.

Is there anything in your life right now that might be controlling you?  I need to ask myself the same question.  A great way to discern the answer is to fast from that something(s) for at least thirty days.  And if for some reason you feel you cannot do without, then who is really in control here?  Are you the master or the minion?

For a while, and I still struggle with it, I would find myself browsing my phone on social media constantly---particularly Pinterest & Instagram.  Occasionally, I forget my phone while out and about and, admittedly, feel SO lost without it.  But if there ever comes a day where I seriously CANNOT function without it, then I have a SERIOUS problem.  To cut off some screen time, I have attempted to keep away from my beloved apps until lunchtime at least, and then forego anything after 9:00pm that night.  Unfortunately, I haven't kept that as diligently as I feel I should, but it's certainly a start!

What about you?  Do struggle with the same thing?  Something else?  Truth is, while we may not realize it at first, EVERYONE will eventually encounter some kind of idol that takes our time and emotions.  It's time to turn our eyes back towards the One who trumps ALL idols.

Only then is there true freedom.

"We cannot be servants of God while at the same time bowing & scraping to the demands of some other substance or influence.  Jesus Himself said it is impossible to serve two masters (Matt. 6:24)."
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As Titus 2 women, it is our mission as well as a privilege to give ourselves fully to the service of our Lord & King.  

"This Titus 2 mandate is about sharing & receiving from one another the gifts of transparency, accountability, mercy, and encouragement, reminding one another who our Master really is."
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For some, we can take liberty in some things because they do not affect us in any way like they do others.  But it is best to keep in mind that even though we may not stumble in this particular thing, someone watching us might.  Ms Nancy says it well: "To limit your liberty for the sake of others who may be led into sin as a result is not to capitulate into legalism, as some would suggest.  It is to exercise a greater liberty---to live by the law of love." (p. 151, Adorned)

This poem comes to mind (I've had it posted above my comments box for years):

To each is given a bag of tools,
A shapeless mass, and a book of rules;
And each must make, ere life is flown,
A stumbling block, or a stepping stone.
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Take heart!  
Our true Master is one of great mercy & grace.
He only asks that we come to Him!

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Are you a slave to some form of excess?
Who is your master?

What's in a Name || Nicknames!

Happy Monday, y'all!

I apologize for my absence.  For some odd reason, my blogger was down almost all week and I wasn't able to share my Wednesday or Friday posts. . . It's okay though, we stayed busy!

It's December!!! Can you believe 2018 is nearly over?? So much has happened in this year for me and my little family.  :]  

  • Both Evan & I passed the point of no return and turned SIX & TWENTY (he in January and I in July)
  • I joined Camp NaNo for the first time back in April
  • I got to go to the beach this year!!! (Back in July) and we visited Evan's side of the family up North 
  • My home church celebrated 100 years in July!
  • Evan & I welcomed our beautiful son, Gabriel, into the world on August 27th. 
  • I'm a book blogger for multiple publishers now---Moody, Tyndale, BookLookBloggers (Thomas Nelson & Zondervan), and sometimes Bethany House.
  • The Hubs & I celebrated our 2nd anniversary in October
That's just a few highlights of this year.  I'm sure I could name many more.  :]
But you're probably waiting for this fresh set of nicknames!!


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M | English

From an English surname meaning "Gumarich's mountain" in Norman French.

M & F | English

Derived from the Latin word decem meaning "ten."  This is the name of the twelfth month of the Georgian calendar.  It is regularly used more as a feminine name in America.


From the English surname, which is most likely a variant of French Beaufort, derived of the elements meaning "beautiful" and "strong place, fortress."

M & F | English (modern)

Variant of Reagan, which hails from an Anglicized Irish surname meaning "descendant of Riagán"---which ultimately means "impulsive."


From a surname which was derived from the given name Everard, meaning "brave boar."

F | English

Possibly a variant of Viatrix, which is the feminine form of the Late Latin name Viator, meaning "voyager, traveller."  Common among early Christians, it was altered in spelling according to the Latin beatus, "blessed, happy."

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Favorite?? I kinda like Bea or Trix for Beatrix. (Though it makes be think of the Harry Potter series...)  And December is such a unique name for a girl! What do you think of this set?

What's in a Name?

Happy Tuesday, all!

I know, I know.  This is a Name post on a TUESDAY.  #WHUTTT  My little household has been a little under the weather following a lovely Thanksgiving day.  We're better now!  But I did not get my posts together due to that fact.  heheh

Anyways, here's a new set for you with some rather unique names.


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M | English, German

Meaning unknown.  Possibly a variant of Gero, which hails from names beginning with the Germanic element ger meaning "spear." 

F | English, Jewish

From the Hebrew word karmel meaning "garden."  Mount Carmel is a mountain in Israel, mentioned in the Old Testament.  As a given name, Carmel has mainly been used by Catholics.


Modern form of the Old Norse name Hróðvaldr or Hróaldr, made up of elements meaning "fame" and "ruler."  This was borne by the children's author Roald Dahl (1916-1990).


Feminine form of Alan, which possibly means "little rock" or "handsome" in Breton.

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How was your Thanksgiving, friends?  And what about NaNo? Still pluggin' away?

What do you think of this set of monickers?  Got a favorite??

Have a lovely week!


"Rejoice always! pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."
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On this day of Thanksgiving (and EVERY day), I am thankful for my dear husband, Evan.  He's the love of my life & my best friend.  I love you, EJ! (INFINITY & BEYOND)
I am thankful for my family---each and every one of them!  For my sweet friends: Risa, Amanda, Ashley, & Heather.  For my amazing blogger-friends & writing partners-in-crime! And for my darling baby boy, Gabriel.  <3 I am thankful for my cozy home.  For my car.  For ALL the books.  For my blog.  :]  For poetry.  For my ability to write the thoughts of my mind & heart.

God has blessed me greatly.  Words cannot adequately express my simple & humble gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Be ENCOURAGED // He Said, She Said

*wince*  We are ALL guilty of this.  It's as simple as a "he said, she said" statement.  But if the subject of this statement were in the room, would you actually be saying such a thing to his or her face?  If not, it is SLANDER.  And the best thing to do would be to say nothing at all.

I would say for some people, slander is unintentional.  For example, it could be in a prayer request, a bits of news shared between confidants (which can be defined as gossip), or an opinion given in answer to someone's question.  If we ourselves do not know the full truth of something, it is not good to give our personal opinion.

"Let no unwholesome [corrupted] talk proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear."
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Slander can involve giving a false report.  [1
Slander can involve the spreading of harmful information.  [2
Slander can include the reporting of truth with harmful content.  [3
Slander is not the same as gossip, but gossip makes slander easier.  [4

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I was guilty of slandering someone this past week.  And certainly not to their face.  And not while in the process of hearing news about them and then giving my opinion.  Nope.  It wasn't until I read this chapter in Nancy's book that I realized, "Wow.  I believe I just did that."  Because if that particular person had been there with me at the time, I wouldn't have said to my sister the simple statement of not being surprised by that person's actions (noted, with a kind of snobby attitude).  Even though I've not had contact with that person in YEARS, slander is still slander, just as gossip is gossip, and a lie is a lie.

"We are stewards of the treasure of each other's good names.  Let us seek to silence the. . .slanderer within & graciously give and receive others' help when one of us slips, perhaps unaware, into slander."
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Slander affects not only those around us, but our own character as well.

"Do not speak against one another. . ."
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In this passage, the phrase "speak against" can be defined as "thoughtless words."  My MacArthur study Bible explains it this way: "[It] means to slander or defame.  James does not forbid confronting those in sin, which is elsewhere commanded in Scripture.  Rather, he condemns careless, derogatory, critical, slanderous accusations against others. . ."

Slander hurts.  And so does gossip.  But what exactly is the difference between the two?

"casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true"

"the action or crime of making a false spoken statement damaging to a person's reputation."

To summarize, GOSSIP spreads rumors about a person(s), which can certainly be harmful to them.  SLANDER is knowingly giving false statements with intent to harm.  But GOSSIP can so very easily become SLANDER, which can cause serious damage to the person(s), to character & relationships, and to reputations.  Slander is Gossip leveled up.

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This all leads back to sound doctrine & reverence!

"Sound doctrine in a woman's life produces reverence for God.  And that reverence shows itself in a careful use of her tongue and in a temperate lifestyle."
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I do not know about you, but I want to be that woman.  I wish to be known for my humility & kindness, for the encouragement I give to others, and for my uplifting words.

Don't be a He-Said-She-Said kinda girl. 

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What about you?  Have you unknowingly slandered someone recently?  If so, asking forgiveness is certainly in order.  It could be sent as a simple text, though face to face has more absolute meaning to be sure.  It could be in praying for the person or persons, where really you would rather just ask God to forgive you & not worry at all about them.  

But in His eyes that wouldn't be right.  He asks us to go the extra mile.

I must constantly ask God to remind me to be in prayer for certain things.  This is one of them!  He will use his Spirit to remind you, however subtly, to watch your words AND your thoughts.  It's simply up to us whether or not we say them aloud.

What's in a Name? || Nicknames

Hullo, dear friends.  How was your Monday?
Mine was gorgeous and sunny and a high of 65 until the bit of rain came.  :]

Posting this a bit late, but here's a new set of nicknames!


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M | Biblical, English, Jewish

From the Hebrew Shelomoh, which is derived from the word shalom "peace."  In the Old Testament, this was the given name of the son of David & Bathsheba, who was renowned for his wisdom & wealth.

F (& M) | English

From a surname originally derived from he name of an English city, meaning "beaver stream" in Old English.

M | english

Danish & Dutch form of Frederick, meaning "peaceful ruler."

F | English, German, Dutch

English, German, Dutch form of French Joséphine, the feminine form of Joseph, which means "he will add" in Hebrew. 

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Whatcha think? 
Josie is my favorite out of this set.  What do you think about Frederik?  Do you like the use of Derik as the nickname, whereas most would assume he'd be called Fred?  Would you add any more rare & unique names to this list?  If so, lemme know! I may feature them in the next Nickname edition.  :]

Book Review || Mornings With Bonhoeffer

Mornings With Bonhoeffer:
100 Reflections on the Christian Life
Donald K. McKim

Abingdon Press | October 2, 2018
devotionals, non-fiction, Christian Life

"No priest, no theologian stood at the cradle of Bethlehem. And yet, all Christian theology finds its beginnings in the miracle of miracles, that God became human."

These stirring words are just a sample of the wisdom found in this collection of 100 devotions that guide and inspire us. Mornings with Bonhoeffer provides an acute understanding of Dietrich Bonhoeffer's theological perspectives, helping us to reflect on what his thoughts can mean for faith and the Christian experience. Short excerpts from Bonhoeffer's letters and passages from his sermons, paired with the daily devotions, offer timeless and moving reminders of God's love for humanity speaking to the "head" and "heart" of theological understanding and personal faith.

Dr. Donald K. McKim brings Bonhoeffer to life in this beautiful devotional that provides understanding of often misunderstood, multifaceted writings as well as an inside look at the imperfect man behind the saintly image. The result is a heartrending portrait that provides Bonhoeffer's true insights, as well as insight into the faith that sustained and redeemed him.

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This is a lovely little devotional that takes you through the writings of Deitrich Bonhoeffer and what he has to say about various topics in the Christian life.  Each day's devotional begins with a quote from him, followed by the author's expounding on said quote and topic, ending with a Scripture verse to look up as a reference.  They are simple and brief---perfect to start the day off!

"Faith is trust.  It is trust in Jesus, even when He seems to be asleep in the boat.  Through all conditions of life---in calm seas or dangerous seas, faith trusts Jesus.  It does not rely on its own strength.  Faith believes only in God.  Faith overcomes fear because God saves those who are perishing.  We are people of 'little faith.'  But Jesus is with us.  He calms our fears.  He gives us faith."
(Bonhoeffer, Chapter 13)

I'm a collector of inspiring and influential quotes from a variety of people, and this devotional is LOADED with them.  Each one serves as a great reminder of Who we are to live for and why.  And they're scattered with tiny historical snippets of Mr Bonhoeffer's life, where he preached at the time of the quotation, and the like.

I would recommend this little devo to anyone familiar, or unfamiliar, with this great teacher of God, and anyone searching for a brief 5-minute something to go along with their quiet time.

Be ENCOURAGED || A Model of Reverence

So, I'm two days late. . . 
(thanks to internet troubles and life in general, I didn't have my posts drafted for this week, so. . .)
But no worries, right?  I'm still here to share ENCOURAGEMENT for the day!  The writerly post will have to wait until next week, unless by some miracle I could get it up tomorrow. . . xD

Titus 2:3
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior. . ."

What does this mean?  In her book Adorned, Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth states that various Bible translations explain it like this, "to live in a way that is appropriate for someone serving the Lord." 

To me, that statement seems to hit the nail right on the head!

"To be reverent means living with the constant, conscious awareness that we are in the presence of an awesome, holy God."
- p. 94, Adorned -

If we were successful to remember this each & every day, what a change in our lives people would see!

"[Younger women are] constantly surrounded by coolness, worldliness, and shallowness.  What they don't see enough of---what they are suffering from lack of---are mature women who have been with Jesus, what one Bible commentator has described as 'life in the presence of the holy.' "
-p. 99, Adorned -

As godly women in an ever-growing, ungodly world, we are called to be reverent not only in behavior, but also in 

APPEARANCE (1 Tim. 2:9-10)
"Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness." (NASB)

In this particular passage, Paul is NOT banning the use of make-up, jewelry, clothing, or hairstyle.  He is merely pointing out that these things are not meant to be the obsession of your time and heart.  A woman's appearance is only a piece of who she is---not the whole puzzle!

ATTITUDE (1 Tim. 2:11-12, 15)
"A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.  But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. . . But women will be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint."

We could expound on EVERYTHING mentioned in these verses---which have all too often made us women bristle and get defensive---but suffice it to say that this speaks to our attitudes and how we respond to God-ordained authority. 

Nancy adds this:
"No, we women are not confined to vows of silence, but reverence toward God and His Word does make up teachable and responsive to God-ordained authority.  It restrains us from asserting ourselves beyond divinely appointed bounds.  And it makes us willing and eager to carry out His sacred calling for our lives."
- p. 101, Adorned -

LIFESTYLE (1 Tim. 5:9-10)
"A widow is to be put on the list only if she is not less than sixty years old, having been the wife of one man, having a reputation for good works; and if she has brought up children, if she has shown hospitality to strangers, if she has washed the saints' feet, if she has assisted those in distress, and if she has devoted herself to every good work."

These verses speak of a woman who is qualified for financial care by the church.  But they also tell of the quality of an older woman who has lived her life full of purpose and intentionality.  She was faithful to serve, was not idle in her days, and didn't waste her life on what doesn't matter.  Her behavior and lifestyle was the model of reverence, and in that, those around her could not help but see the beauty of the gospel.  Oh, what an example I would wish to be!

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Where does reverence begin?
It can only begin in your intentional and deliberate quiet time with your Lord.  We all struggle to make that work, am I right?  We complain and use the excuse, "I don't have the time!"  But Time is a gift.  And it's something we can make more of---without the use of any Time Turner or the like.  ;D

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Are you serving as a model of reverence to both the older & younger women around you?  Do they see the beauty of your character in the reverent, gentle personality that our King wishes we convey? 
I know I fail in that every day.  But I hope this little post will serve to bless you, and that the Lord will grant us daily reminders to be who He has called us to be. 

Happy Friday, y'all!  Have a lovely weekend & be ENCOURAGEMENT to someone today.  <3

What's in a Name?

It's a rather dreary Monday in my neck o' the woods, y'all.  How about you?
But despite the dreariness, it's still a lovely Monday!

How was your weekend?  And how fares your NaNo-ing?  I'm struggling on that a good bit, but I feel like I'm doing what I can.  Just don't look too closely at my wordcount. . .  {And I gotta say it's so fun to be a part of the Pen Dragons, a Google Hangout, hosted by the ever-lovely Christine.}

As you can see---quite obviously---I failed to post some writerly words of wisdom last Friday, but all's well.  I just wasn't able to draft one in time and have it ready, and my weekend was pretty full up with family & football (Go Vols! and Titans! and Pats!).  
But here I am, and with a loverly batch of English rareties.  :]


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M | English

From an English surname, derived from the Old English word fenn, meaning "marsh, fen."

F | English (rare)

Meaning unknown.

English (rare)

Variant of Amyas, whose meaning is unknown though perhaps a derivative of Amis, ultimately derived from Latin amicus, meaning "friend."

F | English (rare)

A variant of Onneli, which could possibly be derived from Onni, meaning "happiness, luck" in Finnish.

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Have a marvelous week, dear hearts!  
I've got a great set of posts coming your way:
Be on the lookout for some up n' comin' book reviews, a little bit of uplifting encouragement, and the newest linkup in Christine's Know the Novel series!

Be Encouraged || A Godward Focus

None of us measures up to what we long to be.
- Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth -

Believe it or not, as ladies striving to be more like Christ, we have a job description.  And it's not just to become the Proverbs 31 woman, although that is a great example to endeavor to be.  

You remember how we talked about each of us being both a younger AND an older woman to others around us?  And in being that, we can build the core relationships that are so necessary in the Christian faith?  The only way to do so successfully is in keeping a Godward focus.  I rather like that phrase, don't you?  All too often we lose sight of what's ahead of us, because we keep focusing on what's behind.  

"Let your eyes look forward; fix your gaze straight ahead."
- Proverbs 4:25 -

So, what does the "job description" then entail?  And how can we keep that Godward focus?
Look at the passages of Titus 2:3-5 (Because this book study I'm into focuses on this particular bit of Scripture, be warned we'll be visiting & revisiting these verses in the weeks to come! ;])
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored."
Titus 2:3-5

I love how Mrs Wolgemuth states it:

"If you're an older woman, teaching good things to younger women is part of your job description.  God has a purpose for you in this season of life that is vital & no one but you can fulfill.  The assumption is that you have learned how to apply the sound teaching of God's Word to your behavior, affections, relationships, priorities---everything---and that you are committed to take what you have learned and pass it on to others.  This should be the norm, not the exception."
(p.71 of Adorned)

Wow! This applies to those of us in our 20s, you know.  Because there's a teen girl who just turned 16 or a high school graduate at age 18, who are searching for the advice and experience we can give.  You may think you're not qualified, but EVERYONE has some form of experience.  Maybe they simply need a friend.  YOU could be that to them.

Nancy continues to state the following:

". . .if you're a younger woman, this passage raises important questions for you: Who are you learning from?  Who are your teachers?  Are they mostly your peers?  What online communities are saturating your thinking and shaping your relationships?  What celebrities are influencing your values, you sense of identity and purpose?"
(p.71 of Adorned)

Those are some thought-provoking questions.  Can we answer them?

For me, I have a dear friend who is only a couple years older than my six & twenty, but I so look up to her.  She lives out her faith so beautifully and boldly.  God is visible to her in absolutely everythingOh how I wish my faith were as strong as I see in hers!

Do you have some such person?  I hope so!  And if not, I would encourage you to seek one out.  This could be an older lady in your church's women's ministry, or the sweet mother of four next door.  We all need someone to learn from, whether or not you realize this.  Perhaps your own mother is not near enough to you, but there's an older, godly lady who works with you at the store that you find yourself looking up to.  Seek her out!  She may not feel qualified themselves, but as mentioned before, we all have experience we can share.  And who knows? she may love that you asked her.

Again, Mrs Wolgemuth sums this up wonderfully:

"The roles of older woman---lovingly teaching what is good---and younger woman---humbly learning---are for all of us.  They're what Scripture calls us to.  None of us belongs on the sidelines."
(p.81 of Adorned)

So, keep that Godward focus.  Don't measure yourself by others' standards, measure yourself by His.  Be willing to be open with the younger ladies in your life, and also be willing to humbly learn from the older ones.

I cannot say it any better than that.  :]

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Talk with me!  Do you have a friend/mentor---someone older you look up to?  If not, is there someone you have in mind, you just need a nudge to ask if she would be that person for you? 
*pushes you in right direction* 
Go to her!  You may just make her day.  In my experience, people love to be needed.  <3